A boyfriend. Hmm. Two words compressed into one. One word which literally means a boy friend. A word I don't really know the true meaning. A word which appears in my everyday life but does not exist in my life.
A boyfriend is someone you share something special with. Someone who would fetch you from school, treat you out on lunch, hold hands with you, pinches your nose then kisses it when you complain in hurts, hugs you when you're cold, kisses you when he feel like doing so, calls you in the middle of the night and you wouldn't mind, et cetera, et cetera.
It always shocks me when I hear a news that she or he as young as 10 already has a boyfriend. So that's like what? Grade 5? Heck, I don't even know if there are younger cases. Not that it's a bad thing...but uh...yes, it is. The more modern the world is getting, the more younger generations get affected by the fast changing of the society. Nonetheless, I don't blame it to the level up of the world. Most cases would probably be caused by peer pressure.
What do I mean by peer pressure? Say this:
Girl1: Uy! Kami na ni Boy1! Nag-first kiss kami kahapon.
Girl2: Talaga? Kami ni Boy2 nag-date lang kahapon.
Girl3: *silent*
Girl1: Ikaw, Girl 3, wala ka pa bang boyfriend?
Girl3: Wala pa eh.
Girl2: Naku, may ipapakilala ako sa’yo. Masaya magka-boyfriend girl! Para kang nasa alapaap.
Since Girl 3 feels “OUT” with her friends, she would find a way to belong with them. And that’s to have a boyfriend.
I know, I know. Not all cases are like this. In most cases, they enter into a relationship because of their dream of being into one. They believe in love at first sight, true love, etcetera, etcetera. This is infatuation. A relationship cannot be made in a day. A relationship is a process. True love cannot be found with just one glance. You have to work for it.
I’m single for 17 years but see? I don’t give a damn about it. These days, boyrfriends are considered a necessity. For me, it isn’t. I often ask my friends my they have boyfriends or if why do they want to have boyfriends. The answers I got was; “I want to fall in love.”-“I thought he was the one.”-“I want someone to take care of me.”-“I’m used to having one.”-“He serves as my inspiration.”
Reasons are childish. If you want to fall inlove, wait for it. You can’t invent love with a person you want to fall inlove with. You have factors to consider. If you thought he was the one, then you should’ve thought that he “COULD” be the “WRONG” one. There’s always two sides of the story. If you want someone to take care of you, what’s the use of your mother? You’re used to having a boyfriend, how about try not having one? You’ll never know unless you try.
With the inspiration thingy. *sigh* You might brand me “selfish” for what I would say. But I don’t think I’d like to be inspired because of my boyfriend. I’d like to be inspired because of myself. My hardships, my efforts are enough inspiration. But of course, a boyfriend might help too. But not to the point where when we break up, my inspiration dies.
Not that I’m “bitter” over this things. Of course, I dream of my own love stories. It’s just that I’ve witnessed a couple of relationship that affects the studies of a person. Bumabagsak sa quiz. Nawawalan ng gana mag-aral. Excited umuwi dahil naghihintay si boyfriend kaya hindi na nakakadaan ng library.
Now don’t get me wrong here. I’m just stating what’s on my mind. =) A boyfriend is not a necessity nor a priority. But also, it’s not a distraction. It depends on how you handle a relationship. And it depends on the reason why you entered that relationship. It’s always nice to keep in mind what’s the reason why you survived that relationship. Because it’s always your last resort when everything is screwing up.
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